Divorce is never easy for anyone, especially for the
children involved. But the good news is
that parents are perfectly able to take the “high road” during the process and
settle their divorce dispute through Alternative Resolution Methods (ARM). Even if you think staying together might be
the best option, when parents are unable to work out their marital differences,
divorce is often a better choice than to subject your household (and your
children) to embittered fights and constant stress by trying to stay together
for the sake of the kids.
Conflict plays such an important role in this decision
because research shows that the level of conflict between parents—conflict that
the children are exposed to—will mean the difference between the children’s
ability to adjust well to the divorce or not adjust well. When
children see constant fighting between their parents, this has a significant effect
on their well-being and sense of stability—whether the parents are divorced or
not. For this reason alone, avoiding obvious fights
and arguments that can be overheard or sensed by your children should be your
primary goal when considering divorce and undergoing the process of finalizing
it.
Research also shows that children adjust better to a
separation and divorce if parents adjust well.
If a parent undergoes intense psychological distress during a divorce,
it is highly likely that the children involved will do the same because
children look to their parents to know how to react to circumstances. That’s why New York mediation and New Jersey
mediation helps families to such an extent when they are going through this
process—mediation encourages open communication between parties to determine
the best course of action and discourages increased bitterness that is a result
of a legal battle.
By choosing to mediate rather than battling it out in the
courts, you are increasing your chances of having a discrete process that will
leave both parties satisfied and be easier on the children in the process. Divorce mediation is a process that can help
both parents come to a fair and reasonable agreement on all matters regarding
property, custody and the future decisions that will be made for the children’s
best interest.
Mediation Associates of NY & NJ offers New York and New
Jersey Attorney services and divorce mediation services. We assist people who are going through
divorce settle their disputes through amicable and competent mediation.
